Need some guy's opinions...

[Eclectic Music]

Ok, I have a question I need some guys opinions on to help me on a current WiP, so here goes.... (just a note, I'm not actually to this part in the story yet, but I want to start working on it so I can have some material on hand when I get to it.)

Here's a little back story on them both:
I have two main characters, Amanda and Josh. They have been very good friends for around two years and they are now living in the same area so they see a lot of each other. They have a good open line of communication between them and can usually tell each other nearly everything but Josh soon starts having feelings for Amanda even though he has a girlfriend. Soon though his girlfriend breaks up with him and Amanda is there to help him through it. He doesn't make any move to tell her how he feels about her for about two months after the break up, but when he finally gets up the courage he finds that she has agreed to go out with another guy.

Amanda kinda has feelings for Josh, but hasn't said anything because of his girlfriend, then the break up, eventually went out with the other guy because she figured she couldn't get Josh anyway. She goes out with the other guy for a while then finds out he's cheating on her, she breaks up with him, later finds out she's pregnant.

Now my question (finally, lol. Sorry it's so long). Through this Josh and Amanda stay pretty good friends, though theres a little distance between them because of the dating situation. Amanda tells Josh a little later she's pregnant and I'm wondering if you could help me determine what a realistic reaction from him would be. Like, what would be going through his mind, how would he react, etc. Any ideas? Do you need more information?

Thanks in advance for whoever replies!

Cheers

[Aimless]

Jesus lassie it depends entirely on the guy and the girl and who they are :P

Elaborate :o

[Eclectic Music]

Amanda: Down home country girl at heart living in the city. Practical, a little sarcastic, likes taking care of others, is completely comfortable around Josh and doesn't mind being open and honest with him. She tells him she's pregnant because he is her best friend and needs some support and comfort since this wasn't exactly planned and she has no intention of getting together with the father so if fearful of what will happen now that she has a kid to raise.

Josh: Kind of a geeky nerd guy, likes to make others laugh, a little prone to depression, quick witted. Loves Amanda because of her personality and warmth towards him, likes helping her out, likes cheering her up, hangs out with her a lot becuase she's the only girl that 'gets' him and just seems more like one of his guys friends that happens to be female (if that makes any sense).

Is this enough? What I'm looking for is an idea of the initial reaction he could have. :oops: Sorry if that wasn't clear before.

[Aimless]

Do you want him to say/do the right thing or the wrong thing?

[Eclectic Music]

I was thinking maybe him having a slightly negative reaction first, then making up for it but I'm not sure how to write that or what he should say. Any ideas?

[Aimless]

What kinda cues is she giving? he'd react to those, unless he has a really self-centered moment. he could be like "are you shitting me?!" or "what?!" or just say "oh!" and hold her, or act for a moment like "seriously why are you telling ME, I don't need this", or he might just say and do nothing for a while, and then just ask her how she's feeling. he could be subdued, or he could be the exact opposite, it really does depend on a lot of things :o

what kinda moment is it? what's the mood? exactly what does she say and how does she get to saying it? what do you have planned as the outcome?

what are their views on sex and love and relationships and abortion etc?

Are you sure? or How do you know? or Are you gonna keep it? or No WAY!... :o

[Eclectic Music]

Ok, I think I see what your getting at now. I guess before I ask anything else I need to go back over the ideas I have and start fleshing them out and with the questions you've provided see if I can mold that scene and make it work. Thanks for answering even though my posts have been a little vague (I've been in a brain fog most of the day, sorry :oops: ) I tried my best to make it plain. Anyway, I think I'll go work on the scene now and see what I can do with it. Thank you!

Cheers

[Aimless]

If you've got the outcome fixed in your mind, then all you need to do is put yourself in her situation and decide what would feel right, and what would feel wrong, and just make him say or do something right, or something wrong :)

Good luck!

[Eclectic Music]

I think I have an idea of how I want this to pan out now. Thank you for your help! :D

[Aimless]

Like a true NiHer he'll ask her to wait a sec while he gets his notebook and pencil, right? :P

[AXJ]

I think, in those circumstances, a larger proportion of guys would be an unwavering and steadfast friend to her, support her through her pregnancy - but would instantly not be interested in her romantically anymore. Most young guys aren't too into the idea of having a kid and wouldn't want to even think about taking responsibility for a kid that wasn't theirs, no matter how much they liked the girl. Not all guys, certainly, but I'd say most.

Now, that could change as he continued to do things to help her through her pregnancy- maying being her lamaze partner, helping her register for shower gifts - he might eventually come to feel like he had a stake in both her and the child, and warm up to the idea of being with her (er, them).

[Eclectic Music]

I think, in those circumstances, a larger proportion of guys would be an unwavering and steadfast friend to her, support her through her pregnancy - but would instantly not be interested in her romantically anymore. Most young guys aren't too into the idea of having a kid and wouldn't want to even think about taking responsibility for a kid that wasn't theirs, no matter how much they liked the girl. Not all guys, certainly, but I'd say most.

Now, that could change as he continued to do things to help her through her pregnancy- maying being her lamaze partner, helping her register for shower gifts - he might eventually come to feel like he had a stake in both her and the child, and warm up to the idea of being with her (er, them).


Thats kind of what I'm hoping to pull off with both of them, by having him help out a lot and eventually come around with the idea of being with them both. Not sure exactly how it will come about but thats the hoped for outcome. :D Thanks for your input!

[dedoublya]

if he's prone to depression, this would most likely set it off for a while.